Adopted people often wonder about their biological parents and where they came from. Questions like “Why didn’t my mother want me? Is my mother still alive?,” often plague an adopted person’s mind. They’re valid questions that one man from Long Island, New York, wondered after he learned he was put up for adoption when he was just a boy.
When he was finally old enough to search for answers, he was led on a paper trail that took him all the way to Ireland. There, he was given a runaround by everyone he met. That was, until a DNA test many years later revealed the truth. All the lies, secrets, and falsified documents were about to be exposed…
An Orphan
The earliest memory Kevin can remember is when he was 2 years old. He recalls walking up the steps to an upper-story apartment in Long Island, New York to meet his adopted parents for the first time. Kevin will never forget that moment, as it was then that he came to know his new mother and father.
Childhood
Growing up in Long Island and New Jersey, Kevin had a wonderful childhood. He loved his mother who was a stay-at-home-mom, raising him and his younger sister. Kevin’s father was a cabinet maker who had a vicious temper and struggled with alcoholism, but he loved his children dearly. Neither one of Kevin’s parents knew how their adoptive son wound up in an orphanage, but they wondered…
Curious About His Past
Kevin didn’t start wondering until he was in high school when the volunteer fire department told him he couldn’t join their ranks because his identification papers were incomplete. This was because he wasn’t a U.S. citizen. From that moment, he took steps to become naturalized and he eventually became a firefighter. However, that experience stuck with him.
Searching For Answers
He had to know where he came from, as it felt like a puzzle piece in his life was missing. Kevin tracked down his New York City birth certificate, where he discovered papers that showed he was born at Sean Ross Abbey in Roscrea, County Tipperary, Ireland. This was a place Kevin never even imagined he could have been from. He decided to dig deeper, unprepared for what he may discover…
His Birth Mother’s Name
Kevin’s birth mother was listed as Kathleen Sheedy. It didn’t list his exact birth date, it only gave a time period covering July through September 1958. Naturally, Kevin sought to track down his mom, although he didn’t find anyone named Sheedy that matched this time frame and no one ever responded to his emails. Frustrated but not hopeless, Kevin used his mother’s name as an example when he taught other police officers how to use computer databases to track down people.
His Adoption Papers Were Tampered With
As the years went by, Kevin learned that his adoption papers had been falsified and his birth mother’s name had been changed. Who would do such a thing? His mother’s name was actually Catherine Sheehy, not Kathleen Sheedy. For years, he was looking for a woman who wasn’t even his mother. Kevin bought a plane ticket to Ireland to search for the truth once and for all. His adoptive mother even accompanied him…
Sean Ross Abbey In Ireland
In 1978, Kevin traveled to Sean Ross Abbey, hoping to persuade a nun to dig up his records and tell him something about his birth mother. The nun’s response was, “You are not welcome here, go away,” while slamming the door in Kevin’s face. He couldn’t believe it. Later at a local pub, a bartender told him that the nuns had once been seen behind the convent burning birth and adoption records. Apparently, they often had a lot of bonfires. Kevin went home empty-handed and he carried even more frustration.
Nun’s Mistreatment Of Unwed Mothers
Then, a few years ago, stories of mistreatment within unwed mothers’ homes began to come out and the church sent Kevin a letter offering to share his adoption and birth records with him, but it would cost him 100 English pounds. Kevin thought to himself with disgust, “Sure, I’ll pay you to give me more lies.” However, he couldn’t put a price on finding his biological mother…
Was His Mother Dead Or Alive?
Soon he received the papers in the mail and this time, his mother’s name turned out to be the real name. He called the abbey and asked to speak to the nun in charge of caring for the mothers and babies and he spoke to Sister Hildegarde McNulty. She remembers his mom as being tall and thin, training to be a nurse. Then, McNulty told Kevin his mother had died.
The Truth Was On Its Way
He was reluctant to believe any of this had happened since the church had gone to such great lengths to bury the stories of the adopted children. All the lies and the missing records and falsified records really bugged him and he accepted never knowing the truth. Little did Kevin know, that truth would come wrapped up in a holiday paper as a Christmas gift from his wife…
DNA Kit With Answers Revealed
Knowing how hard her husband worked to track down his family, including all the dead ends he endured, she bought Kevin an AncestryDNA kit. With this information, AncestryDNA was able to track down a first cousin of Kevin’s who lived in Wales. He learned this news just days after his wife Cathy learned she had cancer. The doctors seemed hopeful that Cathy would recover and soon Kevin received a reply via email from his cousin, basically saying that he was busy and “I’ll get back to you.”
As His Wife Fought Cancer, Kevin Received A Surprising Email
Figuring that was the end of that, as his wife prepared for her surgery, Kevin’s cousin responded to him with the first good news. “We’ve been looking for you,” began the email. Being that his wife was his priority, Kevin dismissed any notion of hopping on a plane to meet his biological cousin. However, after Cathy finished her first recovery week following chemotherapy, she urged Kevin to go…
Kevin Headed To Meet His Family
She said she didn’t want him to miss a chance to meet his long-lost family and she worried what would happen if her cancer got worse. Kevin hopped on a plane to London where his family now lived and at the airport, Kevin met his brother for the first time. A man named Tony came up to him and said, “Hi, I’m your brother.” It’s a thing Kevin never thought he would hear.
Learning The Real Story
For years, he thought he was an orphan and that he would never meet any of his biological family, let alone his own brother. During the long car ride to Tony’s home, Kevin, 59, finally began to learn the long-buried secrets of his dramatic upbringing. Kevin J. Battle was born William Sheehy in July 1958 in Sean Ross Abbey, a mother-and-baby home run by the Sacred Heart Sisters. At the time, babies born to unwed Irish girls were adopted across Ireland, Germany, England and the United States…
The Truth Was Revealed In 2009
The practice of forcing unmarried pregnant girls into convents, where they would work in kitchens and gardens for three years to atone for their sins while nuns sold their children to unwitting couples was exposed by a U.K. journalist in 2009. It was later turned into a 2013 film called “Philomena.”
The Women Feared The Public Shame Of Giving Birth Out Of Wedlock
What made it so difficult for Kevin to discover his mother’s real name was because, at the time, the girls or their families used fake names, so the public shame of giving birth out of wedlock wouldn’t follow them throughout their lives. Unwed mothers were hidden and forced to give up their children. In 1978, when Kevin searched for his mother in Wales, she was still alive…
The Family Learned The Truth The Day Their Mother Passed
He might have been able to track her down had the nuns given him access to his records at the time. Kevin’s mother, too, had been looking for her son. His half-siblings told Kevin they learned about him in 2009, the same day that they buried their mother. Their father told them their mother couldn’t bear to share her secret while still alive, but she had wanted to tell them when she died in case he ever came looking for her.
Catherine Held On To Her Secret
She had been looking for her son, but the church told Catherine her baby was dead, killed in a car accident in New York. Still, she hoped he was still alive and looking for her. The remaining family members searched for Kevin, but to no avail. It wasn’t until arriving at the home his mother once lived in that he saw a photo of her for the first time…
“She Did Love Me”
It was a grainy black and white photo that his sister gave him, of his mother holding him. Being that he arrived in the U.S. as a toddler, he never even had a baby picture. But the blurry photo is evidence that his mother did love him, he could tell by the way she held him. “Look at her smile, look at how she’s holding me,” he said. Kevin figured this was taken during the two or three weeks she was home with him before he was taken by the nuns.
His Story
“She did want me, I see that now,” he said. Kevin is hopeful that he may one day find his father, although his siblings know nothing about him. He’s happy he finally got some answers, and he’s feeling more complete in his life knowing the truth. As soon as his wife is able to travel, he looks forward to seeing his family again.
Six Decades Later, Adopted Man Learns The Secret Of His Mysterious Birth is an article from: LifeDaily