We’ve all been there. There has been a time in our lives where we’ve had to get over someone that we once loved, or possibly still love.
The initial sting of the breakup is hard to bare, and we feel like we will never get over this person and never move on with our lives.
Whether you are going through a breakup now, or are unhappy in your relationship, but are afraid to breakup, here are LifeDaily’s 14 Ways To Get Over A Breakup:
14. Acknowledge that it is for the best
Whether it was your choice to breakup, or your partners choice, your relationship has ended for a reason. Someone was unhappy, or something wasn’t working, which in turn has led you both to where you are now.
13. Every time you go to text your ex, have a friend you text instead
It is always extremely helpful to have a friend literally on call that you will text every time you think of texting your ex. Whether it’s late at night, or at any point throughout the day, when you have an inclination to text your ex, text your friend instead.
12. Remember, you have the rest of your life to be with someone
If you are going through a breakup, and feel like it’s the end of the world, remember this important thing: If you are 25 years old for example and you are lucky enough to live until 100 years old, that means you have 75 more years to be with someone, and to be married! If you can really wrap your head around how much time that is, it will make the emotions that you are feeling right now more bearable. If you have 75 years to be with someone, you should be enjoying your single life and alone time right now, because you literally have the rest of your life!
11. Avoid stalking your ex on social media
You know the phrase: “out of sight, out of mind,” well this saying is certainly true, especially when it applies to social media. If you are constantly checking your social platforms, in hopes of finding out what your ex is doing, or if they look happy, you are wasting your time. Remember the other common phrase: “a picture is worth a thousand words” – you can interpret a picture of your ex in so many different ways, and none of them are probably reality. For example, your ex can be shown in pictures partying clubs four nights a week, but that doesn’t mean that they are happy. This can be their way of coping, and you getting hung up on what your ex is doing is not going to get you nowhere. If your ex and their pictures and posts are “out of sight,” then they are definitely “out of your mind.”
10. Write down your feelings
Writing down your feelings can be an extremely healthy way of coping with a breakup. It allows you to get your feelings out, which also helps you to make sense of them. If you have a desire to say something to your ex, write a letter but never send it. That way, your feelings are still out there, but you are not putting the focus on your ex by giving them the letter. You are keeping the focus on “you” by keeping that letter for yourself.
9. Avoid doing the on/off thing
Many people have done this, and all it does is prolong the poor and uncomfortable feelings that you felt when you initially broke up. By hanging out with your ex, you are preventing yourself from meeting someone new, and you’re incapable of giving your heart to another person when it still belongs to your ex. Don’t allow your ex to have you now that you guys are broken up, and create that line for yourself that you deserve more. The only way anyone is going to respect you is if you respect yourself first. So don’t cave into the desire to see your ex just because you miss them, or you miss being with someone. It is not worth it and you have to think of the bigger picture, so be strong!
8. The Earth’s population consists of over 7 billion people
Yes. Just 7 billion. So you may have lost your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife, but that does not mean you will never find someone else. You feel very isolated and closed off right now because you are going through heartache, but you have to remember that there are billions of people going through the same thing that you are. So not only do you have many things in common with complete strangers, but you have so many opportunities to connect with people, that because you are so hurt, you are actually blind to.
7. Spend time with your friends/family
When you are going through a breakup, it is a great time to lean on your friends and family, and the people that are close to you. If they care about you, they will help you through this time, and help to be your support system. It’s always always nice to enjoy time with your friends, and also catch up with your family, as your time able to spend with them might be limited, and specially limited when you were in a relationship.
6. Don’t put a time limit on how much time you take for yourself
People may tell you that you shouldn’t be home anymore, you should be out and you should be meeting people. I’m going to tell you to ignore them if you are not ready. Don’t let anyone tell you how you should feel, and take all the time you need. When you are ready to go out and mingle you will, but forcing yourself to get out there and meet new people will do you no good if you are not ready to. Also, starting a new relationship when you are still grieving over your ex is probably not the smartest idea either. Just take your time, and do what feels right.
5. Learn something from it
Is there anything you can take from this relationship that will help you in a future relationship? Is there something you can work on during your single time that will make you better for when you meet that special someone? You should spend this time working on yourself, and taking all the lessons that you learned from your past relationship.
4. Focus on yourself
This is the most important one, as anytime you start to miss your ex, or become unhappy with your present situation, you should “focus on yourself.” Focus on the present, focus on creating your future. Know that anything you do now will lay the foundation for your future. If you’re still in school, work extra hard to increase your chances of getting a great job. If you are working, put your focus into your work, and know that by doing so, you will feel amazing.
3. Do the things that you enjoy
This can include any of your hobbies that might have been put on the back burner: like dancing, swimming, rollerblading, bike riding, art, cooking, anything! Maybe you lost sight of your life for a little bit, which is totally normal when you’re in a relationship, but this is your chance to do all the things that you’ve been wanting to do, and all the things that make you happy.
2. Time heals all
Time heals all, including your broken heart. The way you are feeling now, is not the way you will feel three months from now, and not even one month from now. You just need to get used to this person not being in your life anymore. They have become a habit for you, as you have gotten used to spending time with them, and used to talking to them everyday. However, the more time that passes, the more you will get used to not being with them. I promise you, you will feel so much better in a little while from now. So stop worrying about how you’re going to get through this, or imaging how you’ll feel in a week from now, or tomorrow, just focus on this present moment.
1. You create your own happiness
Yes, you, and no one else. No one is going to make you happy if you are not happy yourself. Not a relationship, not materialistic things- nothing. You create your own happiness, and by practicing happiness, you will bring so many people into your life, it’s unbelievable. Happiness is truly contagious, and when you are happy, you become a magnet attracting other happy people that want to be around you.
I hope that this article helped you to cope with your breakup, and deal with the feelings that you are probably feeling. Remember that these poor feelings will not last forever, and you will get through it with time and a little bit of work and self discipline. You will be stronger than you were before this breakup.
14 Ways To Get Over A Breakup is a post from: LifeDaily