Long distance relationships take a lot of work, but you’ll know you found your forever friend if your relationship stays strong despite the miles between you.
However, even the strongest of friendships will struggle when first adapting to the distance. Here are the top 7 tips for starting and maintaining a long distance friendship.
7. Use apps to your advantage.
Keeping up a long distance friendship can take a lot of time and effort. Most people, unfortunately, don’t have a ton of extra time to spend, and apps thankfully help streamline things. Apps like Miranda help you stay organized if juggling different timezones, and apps like Rabbit give you a place to share video, pictures, and even watch tv together with a live chat.
With all the help that apps provide, there’s really no reason why you can’t maintain a long distance friendship.
6. Never stop texting. No matter what the time difference.
At first you’ll feel like every interaction has to be some long update or story, but really the key is to send a short message whenever something pops into your head, or makes you think of them. Because of time differences, they might not see your messages right away, but they’ll usually respond within a few hours.
Life isn’t all about the big moments, thought they are important. Keeping your friend informed about the minute details like how you tripped up the stairs at work helps them feeling like they’re still a part of your life, and helps prevent feeling like you are drifting apart.
5. Send a handwritten card or some confetti to celebrate a milestone.
Even though you’re no longer physically in your friend’s life, you still have to find a way to be part of the milestone moments. Maybe they got a new job, got engaged, or have a birthday coming up, and since you can’t celebrate in person, it’s important to send a physical acknowledgment of the event.
4. Be upfront and honest when you’re upset.
You will still get in little fights, but your friend won’t have the physical indications to know if you’re upset about something. Instead of sending one-wordy texts, or have passive aggressive conversations, just be upfront about what’s bothering you.
You’re friend can’t fix anything if they don’t even realize something needs fixing.
3. Plan visits in advance to give yourself something to look forward to.
Whether you’re planning a trip to visit your friend in their home city, or vice versa, or meeting up in a half-way city, make sure to actually book the necessary tickets to the destination in advance. This gives you something to look forward to and plan together, but also solidifies the plan.
Life will always be hectic, and something will always come up that will make you want to cancel or delay the trip. But if you set everything up in advance, you’re both way less likely to cancel the plans.
2. Send creative care packages.
When I got sick in college, my long distance best friend sent me a care package of cookies. The small gesture took me completely by surprise, and it made me feel so much better.
It doesn’t have to be their birthday to send a small care package, and no matter how small or silly the package, the gesture will show your friend how important they are to you.
1. Schedule a catchup date on Skype once a week.
Of all the tips, this is the number one thing you have to do to maintain a long distance friendship with your best friend. This one-on-one time is important for catching up on the week’s events, and staying current in life’s ups and downs. Because of how busy work can get, it might be best to schedule your Skype date for later in the week when things start calming down.
What have you done to maintain a long distance friendship? Share your tips with us in the comments below.
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